Friday, January 14, 2011

Perfection...

....the goal of one Chinese mother for her daughters, will never, ever be as beautiful or awe-inspiring or life-changing as this perfect Lily.

(You may want to grab a few tissues.)

15 comments:

Jamie Jo said...

Loved the blog about Lily, through many tears, I had to mark her story as a favorite!

Thanks for the beautiful link!

Jamie Jo said...

Oh, and I agree with you.

Marla said...

Great post!

Patti said...

so sweet, I am honored to have been linked to on your blog:)

Kathy said...

Lily and her mom are beautiful. I loved her honesty and seeing the story unfold. So very touching. That other article was something that leaves one speechless.

Lynn B said...

Ooops, I clicked before I saw the tissue warning! Oh, beautiful. Just what I needed to put that first article out of my mind for good. Thank you, Kristen!

Emily said...

Thank you! Beautiful : )

Kathy said...

I thought you might find it interesting that the lady of the Chinese Mothering article, actually has a sister that has Down Syndrome. She hasn't said much about her other than that she did also learn to play the piano and works at Walmart.

I don't know why. I was horrified by the article, but just thought it an interesting thing to learn about her today.

Kathy said...

I just wanted to clarify, that I didn't mean to say I don't know why. I meant to say, I don't know why it matters. Just thought it was sort of interesting because of the story you shared of Lily.

Ellen said...

I saw the Chinese mother on NBC news tonight. I was not impressed. She seemed so cold and clinical with her children, not at all warm and loving. It seemed to be all about success without regard to her children's happiness.

I have a son who is a college senior. We expected a lot from him. But we were realistic. Our expectation was for him to do his best. And he always did. He's an honor student, has a wonderful girlfriend and is well adjusted. I certainly think that one doesn't have to go to such extremes to raise great children.

momof2boyz said...

I picked up The Tiger Hymn at Barnes and Noble- I read it, and was quite appalled at Amy Chua's treatment of her daughters. I did not purchase the book, but I read enough to wonder what Ms. Chua's relationship with her daughters will be like when they are old enough to completely escape her control.

Elizabeth C. said...

Thank you for inviting us to meet Lily and her mom.

I stayed there for a bit and was led to another story that touched me to the core.

The children Patti led me to via her blog have touched my whole family.

These are the stories to be read and I can only offer my prayers to the other mother and hope she finds the true beauty of her children; as God has created.

aly in va said...

Tear jerker indeed....

Anonymous said...

Kirsten,
I love your blog and am an adoptive mother as well. I loved both stories. I do not think they can be compared, a bit like comparing apples and oranges. We all have a "tiger" in us maybe not as bold as Chu's but let us not rush to judgements that she or her children do not love each other as we see fit. We "westerners" can learn something even if we do not go to the extreme. I remember a post of yours of your daughter's first ballet recital and you were disappointed in the outfit because it was a bit chinsey, you showed us what you would have preferred. I can tell by your blog and all of the beauty your pour into your family and home that you do not like medocrity, we just settle for it when we have too, but Chu does not. In the Catholic point of view, we must be perfect in order to gain heaven. What would we have thought of St. Therese's father when he allowed her to enter such an extreme way of life at the young age of 15. The Carmel is very difficult and she gave up everything and put her body through many trials. Again, I love your blog I just saw the Chinese mother just as beautiful as Patti. Erin

Kate J said...

Lily's story brought tears to me as well, remembering my own experience with an unexpected diagnosis after the birth of our 8th child. The NICU has been compared to a war zone, in terms of the effects it has on moms, even years later. It is so unfortunate that even the nursing and medical staff who work there have such little regard for what a postpartum mom might be experiencing. Thank goodness for the "mentor moms" that God sends our way! Like Patti, I was blessed with the support of a mom who had been there, in the trenches. I feel that if the opportunity ever presents itself, I MUST BE THERE for a mom experiencing the grief, the panic, the perceived utter abandonment, as well as the daybreak after that dark night.