Thursday, April 8, 2010

Details, details

Did you hear all the wonderful baby news swirling around the blogosphere this week? What a fabulous Easter! We're thrilled for Rachel and Charlotte! Congrats to both of you ladies!

All right, so I promised more details on our upcoming adoption. This information might be a little dry as it's mostly fact stuff, so sorry about that.

First and for prayer's sake, our birthmother's name is Amanda. As you can imagine she is on our minds and in our prayers constantly. We would be grateful if you would include her in your prayers with us.

Yes, it's a boy! We're positively thrilled, and my husband can't wait for soccer season and football practice. (One of his criteria for choosing a name is whether it will sound good on the football field. Okay, he's partly kidding. But partly not. :)

The baby's due date is May 6th. He will be born in a little town outside Atlanta, Georgia. We hope to book our flights soon, but picking a date to fly is tricky, not knowing whether he will be early, late or right on time. We'll likely just book a date around the 6th and then change our tickets when it looks like Amanda is going into labor. We have to remain in GA for 7-10 days after birth for interstate compact to go through (legal stuff that allows us to take our son out of state). We are very fortunate to be staying with my aunt and uncle who live in Peachtree City, just an hour from the hospital. (On a side note, I was so thrilled when I learned we were going to Georgia. I've wanted to travel there for years to visit the natural beauty I've always imagined and the period architecture surrounding Atlanta and in Savannah.) I doubt I'll be thinking of these things while there, of course. :)

Amanda has asked that this be a closed adoption. Though she knows us from our pictures and what she read in our profile and Dear Birthmother letter, we will never meet her. She does want us to be in the hospital when the baby is born so we can hold him right away, but we will likely be on a different floor. We have mixed feelings about closed vs. open adoptions. We've done both and we have a preference, but I'll explain more of that later.

Our little boy is 1/8 American Indian. We're waiting on written permission from Amanda's tribe to adopt him. We anticipate this to go smoothly as the tribe gave verbal consent, but please keep this in your prayers.

Our caseworker keeps us posted on Amanda's progress. She has not had any contractions yet, but of course this will all change sooner than we imagine. Patrick and I remain in awe of these birthmothers and the sacrifice they make for the good of their babies. Since the first link we had back in November that didn't work out, we've had two more fall through. This adoption looks very good and for various reasons we feel confident that we'll have a baby in our arms in the end. But should Amanda change her mind I know I'll be as grateful and as at peace as I am now. I know I can only do what is possible and God takes care of the rest.

A friend recently encouraged me not to get my hopes up or get too excited in case this falls through. She said she is remaining cautious to protect my feelings. I can't live that way. I'd much rather be happy now and then disappointed later, than to be filled with anxiety before disappointment. I'd rather enjoy the hope of now while in the now. So I'm hoping. I'm excited. I can't wait to hold my new baby and feed him and cuddle all day long and put on his handsome dude outfit! We're all excited here. So don't be afraid to be excited with us, even if it means disappointment later.

30 comments:

Grace in my Heart said...

Oh I'm so thrilled for you and your beautiful family! I bet the girls are just all smiles! :)
As I type this, my 5 month old adopted baby boy is resting in my arms (yes, I type with one hand now!) and I totally understand your need to hope all things will go smoothly. God asks us to trust and hope in Him! So I'm rejoicing with you! God is so good!

Charlotte (Waltzing Matilda) said...

Kristen,
Thank you so much for your good wishes and sweet prayers! Even those of us with a child growing in our womb have to choose between being anxious and nervous or joyful and hopeful. None of us is given a guarantee!

I think you are choosing the better part! Joy, hope and trust are all wonderful emotions to live in and dwell on. Our Lord will always be there to revel with you in excitement and comfort you in heartache. If given the choice, why not choose joy right now?

Praying for you (and Amanda and baby) and rejoicing with you while we wait for more news! Please keep us posted!!!

Right Said Red said...

Kristen,

I think it is so great that you are hopeful! You are an experienced mom and have been through this many times, you know your heart, and it is so beautiful that you are sharing it with us! I am praying for you, your family, the beautiful baby boy, and his birthmother Amanda.

Lady of the Lakes said...

So excited for you!!!

Colleen said...

Yay!!! I am so thrilled for your family :)

Elizabeth C. said...

We are praying for baby boy blue, Amanda and you.

BTW, a friend of mine is leaving tomorrow for Mexico City to visit the Shrine of Our Lady of Guadalupe. She has requested our specific intentions to take to her.

I hope you don't mind that I've placed your names (Amanda's too) within our intentions.

God bless!

turtlemama said...

Congratulations on all of your joyful news. You'll be in our prayers.

Jenny said...

I agree, be happily hopeful now. :) You all are in our prayers! Would you please pray for us and for my brother-in-law and sister-in-law? Both of us couples are trying to adopt. God bless you.

Kristen Laurence said...

Thank you, Ladies!

Elizabeth, your friend's name wouldn't bear the initials KT, would it? My friend Kendra is leaving for Mexico City tomorrow too. :)

Jenny, yes, of course I will pray for you. Starting right now.

Jeannine said...

Praying for you, Amanda, and the precious little boy you await. I am filled with thanks that you would generously share this journey with us. And your words regarding disappointment are wise; we never know the future! But we know God, and He does.

ViolinMama said...

Praying so hard for your future son, and I love your outlook. And yes, as someone said above - even the babies growing in our wombs (mine due May 11th) have no guarantees. Every day pregnant or looking forward to adoption is a gift, and we should relish in the now. I will embrace your hope and excitement and trust in God's plan!

Thanks for all the info, and for keeping us posted!!

Much love!

Faithemmanuel said...

I am so excited to see a little boy toddling behind your girls in your beautiful pictures! (he won't be toddling for awhile- I always forget how long it takes) Ditto on what the others have said! Many prayers for down south! May it be a blessed time.
My word verification is relic...hmm-- I have two- one of St. Mary Goretti and one of St. Joseph Cupertino- so I'll spiritually place them on the baby, birth mother, and your family!)

Grace at Home said...

Yes, I'll pray! How so very exciting. We are still awaiting the final hearing for our third adoption (she is 9 months now...the longest we've ever had to wait). Also, we used to live in Peachtree City. I didn't realize you would possibly be adopting out of your state. I'm so happy for you, Kristen.

Elizabeth C. said...

Kristen,

Her initials are K.T and yes her name is Kendra...LOL what a small world.

We are part of the same home schooling co-op and Little Flowers group.

Mrs. 2nd Lieutenant said...

hope is a thing with feathers - and it is such a precious gift to have been blessed with; I too cling to joy and hope, because really, what else can you do?

I am so very excited for your growing family and will say lots of prayers for the adoption and that his tribe will vote yes (ps. is it corny that i think its totally cool he is part A.Indian? what a rich heritage!). we here in the peach state hope ya'll get here real soon! :)

are the girls going to be coming with you to meet the new little dude? :)

Mary said...

Kristin,
I LOVE your attitude! Be in the sacrament of the present moment. God will be with you the whole way. This is just wonderful news. I can't wait to see pictures of your newest addition. We will be praying for Amanda.
Blessings and Grace...

Erica said...

Congratulations, Kristen!! I am so happy for you! I was up in your neck of the woods today. :) One of these times we will get together! You will all be in my prayers.
Much love, Erica

Alexis said...

I'm praying for you and am waiting expectantly to "meet" him on the blogosphere!

Paula said...

I'll be praying for all of you, for Amanda, and for that bouncing baby boy!

Michelle A said...

The Ambuuls will be praying for you ALL- your family, baby boy, and Amanda and her family! YEH!!!!!!!!!!!!

Joey said...

Wonderful news! Congrats! Will be thinking of you and praying w/ you!

Ellie said...

I am so excited and happy for you. I have not adopted, but to me it seems no different from pregnancy in the sense that I have had many losses, yet that does not detract my my faith and hope and excitement with each new conception. You are right: we do what we can and it is all in God's hands. Keeping you all in my prayers ....

Mrs. Mike said...

Deo gratias! Overjoyed for you and this wonderful news! Our prayers for you and your family and this precious baby's birth family in the weeks ahead.

(PS...boys are so much fun!)

Nikkadmus said...

I shall take your advice and rejoice with you...I shall continue to pray fervently for God to work out all the details to a happy end. Blessings to you and your family! Nikki

Erin said...

Ohh soo exciting!!
Praying, and praying for Amanda too.

AmysZoo said...

I love your point of view, Kristen! So often I shield myself from hoping because I don't want to get disappointed. But you are SO right, that is no way to live. Especially for those who profess faith in Christ, who is our HOPE!! We have hope in Him no matter what the outcome of our circumstances. You have been a great encouragement to me today. I will keep Amanda and your family in my prayers, and I can't wait to hear the good news of your son's arrival into your family!!

Beth M. said...

Congratulations on your great news and I'll be praying that everything works out, and praying for Amanda too. I live in metro Atlanta and its just beautiful this time of year. I have two girls and a boy, and boy oh boy will your girls love your little boy. It is a very sweet sibling combination.

mary@evlogia said...

So very excited for you.

coffeemom said...

OH , I am so behind on blogs! And to find this!! Such fantastic news! Congratulations and you're right on my prayer list for this, and Amanda, and this new sweet little baby boy.

I agree with you: get excited. I can't live that way either, the push it back and be cautious. If it goes well, then you've already begun to embrace it and if it falls apart then we can all pray even harder for comfort and peace. Dive in. Feel it all. I have adopted five times, but two of them were at risk placements, one more than teh other, and it was a tiny bit nervewracking, but we chose to trust and dove in. Choose joy! Choose hope and trust. All will be well. And, um, start sleeping! That baby is just around the corner!!

Carlota said...

I am not sure how i stumbled onto your blog, but I am glad I did. Your post is so beautiful! It brought tears to my eyes. May God's will be done.